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Saturday, March 17, 2012

The Act of Staring

STARING - Wikipedia defines it as 'A prolonged gaze or fixed look.' But how prolonged is prolonged? Who decides? Obviously the person who is staring, the person who is stared upon has no control on it other than ignoring him/her or going up to that person and creating a scene (which can't be done with every 3rd person). The problem is the people who stare neither know the meaning of Prolonged nor Staring.

I think there can be 5 reasons to it,
1) It's their favorite pastime
2) Staring is the only thing worth looking forward to in a day
3) Every person they see walking past them is an alien coming from a different planet
4) I who is stared upon is the most weird looking person around (which I don't think I am)
5) I am a look alike of Aishwarya Rai (Indian film actress) which again I am not!
Unfortunately there are no rules or fines attached to the Act of Staring. The way free advice is an uninvited guest same is the case with Staring.

Everybody faces this and we take the safe way out of Ignoring, but sometimes it gets so annoying that it makes me wonder if there's any solution to it! I remember an incident where I and my friend were at a railway station to book tickets and as usual some random guy was staring us. My friend got annoyed and started staring back at him, after a minute or two the guy got uncomfortable and left. I can never do that, wish I could but I don't think it would work with everybody, you never know they might take the staring back as a sign of approval considering there are all kinds of people in this world!

I will still follow the rule of Ignoring till one day I really end up going to the person and asking 'Hello, what's wrong? never seen a Women before?'

16 comments:

  1. If you would have had lived in saddi Dilli, you would have known the appropriate responses to this situation by now! Like me :) Lots of handy tips available

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    1. Yeah, would consult you next time! :) I guess Delhi is Delhi, can't compare it to Mumbai. Mumbai has its own pace of getting people used to its lifestyle

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  2. Ignoring I think is the key until it's something which is persisting for longer time. This is something we, our society can never get rid off but only make up a way to combat it. I'm glad you're sharing these kind of problems here. :)

    There is an 'Real Men' campaign going on Facebook under HTCity, you might wanna take part: Real Men.

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  3. Prachee - I will confess, I stare back at people, I think it's something to do with having grown up in saddi dilli as ipsi said .. I have even asked men what are you staring at and believe the first one works but if not I go ahead and ask :D

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    1. I have started staring back now, i did that a day after i wrote this post! hahahaa

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    2. and I am proud about it! lol

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  4. And the worst form of this subject :
    Staring while scratching between their legs !!!

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    1. I avoided writing that here, but u said it :)

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  5. Good one Prachee :) Men are like parasites, if they find you as a comfort zone then they will carry on staring but if you fight back, as you said 'staring back' and 'asking them', they will search for the next comfort zones. but these are just temporary solutions.
    And i like to mention here the famous sentence 'tere maa behan nahi hain kya ghar main!'. :)

    http://knvinayaka.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks Vinayak for stopping by. I have started staring back now!

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  6. This was an amusing post but what you wrote is true! I think it is the upbringing which to a great extent makes the difference:)

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    1. Glad you liked it. I guess apart from the numerous other factors upbringing plays a major role!

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  7. good post about

    The Act of Staring

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